Threesome / Ménage à trois

Just recently somebody refreshed my memory about this subject and, after discussing it with a lot of people, I took the subject into consideration and started researching.

As I mentioned many times before, sex is still TABOO and in my country (ROMANIA), even though sex sells, most sold sex is the cheap one. Nobody’s wants to get out of that box, yet…and that’s what I am trying to change little by little.  I think a bit of information will set new standards, will form new mentalities and the old ones will be gone before saying  three times  “califragilistic expiali doshas” .

The weird thing I found on the internet were RULES… Now I am a really organized guy so that should have tingled my senses….but it didn’t.

The first thing I saw is that people have different opinions about some of the basic and really important rules. And here lies the bad journalistic value of an article: you may never feed people your opinion if it’s not coming as a personal note. This specific post will view and take in consideration more than only one’s view on the subject.

How ? let me teach you how people interact. Most views are really limited as personal experiences are mostly limited. Though I know some people who could help me create a better perspective from their own experiences and  by adding so research to it….I HOPE THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE ON HAVING A GOOD EXPERIENCE IN A MENAGE A TROIS.

First of all you need to understand that I DON’T DISCRIMINATE, thus threesome’s may be :

– MFM , FMF  and  MMM, FFF.                        ( M – Male  ,  F – Female)

Do take in consideration that thought MMM or FFF may appear as being an orgy, it is still A MENAGE A TROIS, for the simple fact that there are only 3 people involved and there is no “open party invitation”.

Today I will present what I think  is most important information for any person entering this type of action. I will not try to reproduce, redistribute or explain anything found on the internet. If you want to know what all the tabloids and sites are saying about this, just click HERE,  and you will have it at your finger tips.

So I made my own set of rules to follow, but I’ll name them guidelines, as they are based on common sense and a clear plan of expectancies.

First thing’s first.  Most of the articles on the internet look at the whole threesome as being a couple’s action.

Let me tell you that if this is the case, you need a clear set of rules set by both partners when thinking of getting involved in such a play. Why ? Because of the feelings involved; Most men, as well as women, can’t think of sharing their partner and refuse the idea of it. Most of us are egocentric and prefer that we have a threesome with two of the opposite sex.

Males will always think that a 3 some with two woman would be best, while women may want vice versa. If you plan to do that, and any of you is jealous by nature, BETTER STOP THERE !

I really encourage the threesome to be done with 2 people that have a neutral state in your life, and not with  friends or life partners. Swinging is actually for the really open minded people, who can control their feelings, act upon a set of restrictions and know their boundaries.

If these two things were taken in consideration, then the only remaining thing is to organize and enjoy the pleasure to come.

So here are some of the rules that I think are relevant to a good, well done and exciting threesome :

RULES

As in S&M or bondage, or as in life in general, there should be a set of rules which all three partners can establish and asses before going ahead and doing it and with which they can relate. If it’s a spontaneous moment, be sure that in your head there are some things you are aware of.

Establishing rules can prevent the action of going into the wrong direction or even getting it stopped. I can’t say what those are as pleasures and limits are set by all partners….maybe one of the three doesn’t want anal penetration or thinks that giving oral pleasure to the same sex isn’t a thing they like.  Anything can be set before.

HAVE A STRATEGY

Threesome includes +1 to what you should know by now. You need to be attentive to the needs and pleasures of the 2 partners and not think only of yourself. In contrast to that, if you don’t have an idea, let me give you a nudge of telling you that you may play with both partners as you were conducting two puppets. Another good idea is to play with yourself a bit and after that with them and ease into any action.

Let your bodies do the talking, be receptive and you will know what to do next.

EQUALITY

Though the second advice was about steering a foreplay, the action should be equally shared. You give and receive pleasure, rushing into things never made anything good come out of it. Never help yourself ! See if the attention is concentrated on you and if not find a “loose” end where your are needed.

And last but not least:

SAFETY

The less you know about a partner, the worse the idea to just go ahead and do something irrational. So wear protection or make sure that protection is available and used appropriately . And if protection is not needed, be sure that all three are tested and clean. I DO STRESS THIS as it is an overlooked issue nowadays, but I advise people to keep the memories of your experiences as nice as you can and don’t let the outcome transform them into a regret for all your life.

BE SAFE , HAVE FUN , AND DO THE HANKY PANKY until next time,

Posted on February 25, 2014, in Sex ED and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Sper ca nu te superi dar textul asta chiar mi-a creat un disconfort psihic. Nu din cauza subiectului ci din cauza englezei.

    • Imi pare rau Alex pentru tulburarea creata si cu aceasta ocazie iti multumesc pentru feedback. Te rog spune-mi unde simti ca as putea imbunatati cele scrise, iar eu voi face efortul de a-mi rectifica neajunsurile.
      Cu respect,
      Alex.

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