How to by Words

It has come to this !! I want to thank you all for reading my Blog and understand that I will eventually get to all your requests and subjects if you have the patients to explore what I write.

Today’s subject is a real mind blower as people still have issues in finding the best way in taking the climax to a new level. I know that just sounds surreal, but if there is anything you should know, is that the body can overflow with different chemicals from your brain to make you go insane with pleasure.  How can we take it to the next level ?

I like to take any subject I talk about, systematically, therefore the most important factor and organ you will have to work with is : YOUR BRAIN.  I am currently trying to create a theory on sexual maturity and the mentality that takes you beyond the simple though of just plain simple sex, and still working on perfecting and discovering more and more information that will attest everything I will say.

I should start for the physiologists out there about the Freud point of view , but if you are a reader of this blog you will see that almost never have I added any of his theories. Old and outdated.  So I’ll just tell you why, cause Freud imagined there was a differ­ence between a clitoral orgasm (inferior) and a vaginal or­gasm (healthy, normal), which is NOT TRUE.


In the early 1960s, William Masters and Virginia Johnson measured the physical intensity of female orgasms. They found that the most intense female orgasm, on average, was experi­enced through masturbation. The next most intense orgasm was through manual or oral stimulation from a partner. And the least intense orgasm was through intercourse.

I already have written about : self-exploration and masturbation (click here) there you have more on what it means to reach a certain level of concentration and get there but today, I just want to extend that favor and help you understand yourselves better.

So we are going to start with THE BRAIN !!!

If searching the internet on HOW TO, you will find that most sites talk about the same things, attention, self-exploring, long prelude and sexual stimuli by touch, though all are very important and depended on one and other, the BRAIN is the control center which needs the most work when wanting more.

As much as thinking happy thoughts makes you a positive person, thinking dirty thoughts makes you a more sexual being and flexible and open minded, gets your juices running when needed and takes you to that point of arousal I was talking about in the previous article.  So let’s get down to business, shall we ?

Getting in the right state of mind :  BEING AND GETTING HORNY (Music)

As always so that I can prove that you can and will succeed, I’ll purpose a little exercise to loosen you up :

imagine yourself in a place of comfort and relaxation and make yourself be there :  think about details like, colors, sounds , feelings, smells and state of being” –if you close your eyes all the details you set should create the exact needed image, it will relax you of your thoughts.

now make yourself comfortable, if it’s sitting down,  laying around or laying backwards, in a good position where your body feels relaxed ” – you may find that your imagination can actually transpose you there;

” find yourself in a naked state where you feel confident and aware of your sexuality, your legs should be open, loins should be out, sensitive and free”

The most intense feeling of excitement is by being sure of yourself and in a good place, relaxed.

take yourself in your imagination and just caress yourself, touch your favorite parts and places easy and wide…go all over your body”

feel free to touch yourself in this imagination exercise and let yourself feel all the feelings and emotions of past sensed pleasures”

remember all the good places you’ve been and all the good things you’ve experimented. Relive parts of the most ecstatic moments of your sexual encounters”

That’s being in the right state of mind. When having sex or love making, it takes vulnerability to let yourself get to the highest peaks,  the pleasure you experience will be more than you’ve though you could have, or just remind you of the good times you had.

Mental exercises help us isolate pleasures from any other thoughts, as many of us start wondering when in the act, or just get overwhelmed with other thoughts.

Explore and INSIST :  finding what you like the most 

As stated before, I’ve already written a few articles helping you knowing your body, one is mentioned above, the man’s G spot, the woman’s G spot.   I’ve even give you a detailed analysis on how to perform good oral sex on women and men. But nothing compairs with self exploration.

Your tastes in everything you know is based on EXPERIENCE. I know that this may seem a bit simple, but you can never know too much and you can never reach the finish as there are so many variables that change, that we really need to keep an open mind to them. Knowing your body is a really hard process, we use conventional barriers and stick with them. But that is why the rate of unsatisfactory sexual relationships is so high, no one knows what they want or how to ask for it. Find what makes your toes curl and your body explode with pleasure.

Also knowing what you like is not enough, knowing what you don’t is also equally important. But always read, and research what you are ready to try out as there are so many practices out there that you may find that you like more than you ever thought you did.


Let’s talk about Erotic Asphyxiation or better said asphyxiophilia. Here I have for you some interesting facts taken from the almighty Wikipedia (you can verify) :

Author John Curra wrote, “The carotid arteries (on either side of the neck) carry oxygen-rich blood from the heart to the brain. When these are compressed, as in strangulation or hanging, the sudden loss of oxygen to the brain and the accumulation of carbon dioxide can increase feelings of giddiness, lightheadedness, and pleasure, all of which will heighten masturbatory sensations.”[1]

Author George Shuman describes the effect as such, “When the brain is deprived of oxygen, it induces a lucid, semi-hallucinogenic state called hypoxia. Combined with orgasm, the rush is said to be no less powerful than cocaine, and highly addictive.”

In the early 17th century. It was first used as a treatment for erectile dysfunction, but the practice can be dangerous even if performed with care and has resulted in a significant number of accidental deaths, so what to do if you still want the thrill without the CHILL ??

Simple, here is some advice :

  • Do not do this on your own, set boundaries and safe signals,, make the other one understand the procedure and how to perform the act and when.
  • The most safe one is chest compression, which can be self induced too…but may cause a vein to pop, so be careful, this is not kids play.
  • Usually holding your breath just a bit before reaching orgasm, until the orgasm is almost over and exhaling by it’s end will ensure that you will intensify the orgasm experience.

Other advice on intensifying orgasms are related to HIGH MUSCLE CONTRACTION, when almost at the climax of the orgasm, just squeeze as much as possible from that member , this allows more blood to be pumped into the organ, making it more sensitive, harder and powerful.

Posted on September 13, 2013, in Sex ED and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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